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Gdsb001 said:
How to cope with this loneliness as sex with escorts is becoming unfulfilling 😞.
I am 36 and have no friends .
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I know it’s hard but try to go with the flow and focus on building a fulfilling life outside of punting.

Just keep yourself busy so you don’t have as much time to feel lonely. For example, stay busy with work, build a strong work ethic, and enjoy your money by buying things you like, including punting, of course 😂.

Age doesn’t really matter, 36 is still young though.

Note: This is advice for myself too 😂
 
Hey @Gdsb001, I feel for you. I too went through that in my late 20s to early 30s. Similar to others advice, find a hobby you enjoy, if you've not been exercising, this is a good time to get into a regular routine.

What I learnt was to go with the flow, do things you like and hope to find/meet people that way rather than doing things you don't like in the hope of meeting people. Most people will see through it and anyone you meet usually isn't long term.
 
There is value in seeing a therapist. Go to your GP and ask for an assessment of your mental health.

They might help you with a few things and even help with some medication to get you over a few things while your sus it out. They can connect you with counseling which can be really helpful. I've been talking to someone for years now and find it really helpful.
 
Find a hobby you like. Good thing with Facebook, is there are plenty of groups you can join, where they meet up regularly. I too was like this in my 20s, but now in my 40s I prefer my own company, and very occasionally meet up with people for different hobbies I enjoy doing
 
Also. I think it's important to recognize if you're using sex with escorts to fulfill some sort of gap in your life other than "no strings sex".

I think that could get a bit unsafe for you. Do some work on yourself. Be someone that is confident to date, and use sex workers as an outlet for just needing to nut as opposed to anything else.

I think alot of dudes could benefit from learning to count calories, walk 10k steps a day and do a basic dumbell workout 3 days a week.

Just need a decent dad bod these days to feel confident about yourself.
 
It's not loneliness for crying out loud. You're looking for deeper connection, not just fucking those whores. That's why I prefer regulars than some random new meats. Find one or few whores you prefer and try to visit them regularly. If the chemistry is right, keep going. Otherwise there are plenty of fucking whores are waiting to be discovered and connected. Then you may enjoy the process from loneliness, love, jealousy to cuck. Once you reached the final form then you would become invincible to connect with any whores at deeper level. Or you could develop new additions like one of those fucking tcg nerds.
 
reamer said:
Hey @Gdsb001, I feel for you. I too went through that in my late 20s to early 30s. Similar to others advice, find a hobby you enjoy, if you've not been exercising, this is a good time to get into a regular routine.

What I learnt was to go with the flow, do things you like and hope to find/meet people that way rather than doing things you don't like in the hope of meeting people. Most people will see through it and anyone you meet usually isn't long term.
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Thanks man much appreciated, to be honest when sometimes I am feeling bit sad I just come on punterhub and this site is more than just escort reviews, I get great advice from fellow experienced people and it’s like a therapy.
 
Squidward said:
Also. I think it's important to recognize if you're using sex with escorts to fulfill some sort of gap in your life other than "no strings sex".

I think that could get a bit unsafe for you. Do some work on yourself. Be someone that is confident to date, and use sex workers as an outlet for just needing to nut as opposed to anything else.

I think alot of dudes could benefit from learning to count calories, walk 10k steps a day and do a basic dumbell workout 3 days a week.

Just need a decent dad bod these days to feel confident about yourself.
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I work out 4 times a week and walk 15-20000 steps a day, I lost 12 kgs and I 3 inches of my waist, I am trying to reach a great level of fitness.
 
OrgyDome said:
That can be tough. I went through this when I was younger too
Good Friends can be hard to find.
Only thing I can say is you have to go find them, they don't usually find you.
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True. Join a group ie Men’s Shed, jogging/hiking, book club etc. Many activities are free like the walk run clubs in parks. Good way to meet both sexes in non threatening/or intimidating situations. Plenty of people so you can move around if you don’t connect.
 
Notanother said:
True. Join a group ie Men’s Shed, jogging/hiking, book club etc. Many activities are free like the walk run clubs in parks. Good way to meet both sexes in non threatening/or intimidating situations. Plenty of people so you can move around if you don’t connect.
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Yes. And not only that, you gain confidence, meet new connections, skills, become a better person.
 
I’d suggest alcoholism; it’s easy to make friends with other alcoholics at pubs during the week, maybe you can even develop new skills like gambling... and when you decide to get sober, you can make new friends in AA... or in jail.











Jokes aside, everyone here has already given good advice... exercise, find new hobbies that involve other people and make you feel like a more interesting person, seek therapy... you need to take the first step toward changing something; the world or God doesn't have a plan for you—you have to create one.
 
Gdsb001 said:
I work out 4 times a week and walk 15-20000 steps a day, I lost 12 kgs and I 3 inches of my waist, I am trying to reach a great level of fitness.
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well done, im in a similar boat, a married incel due to medical issues, just becoming a workaholic and burying myself in work, and looking forward to the next sneaky work trip to auckland, looking to paste some faces.
 
JohnnyPunter said:
Married Incel. Fuck that sounds rough
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kiddos make leaving harder. With housing and shit these days and her health making it impossible to work, thatd basically kick them to a shitty rental in the slums, no way im fronting primary care, my job would be on the block, vicious feedback loop. Theres a whole reddit theing, r/deabedrooms and r/deadbedroomsMD
 
goose8585 said:
kiddos make leaving harder. With housing and shit these days and her health making it impossible to work, thatd basically kick them to a shitty rental in the slums, no way im fronting primary care, my job would be on the block, vicious feedback loop. Theres a whole reddit theing, r/deabedrooms and r/deadbedroomsMD
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this is what working girls are for eh, wish it was more accepted that if you werent getting it at home you could just go get your needs met elsewhere, it's perfectly healthy to want that. feel for you pal and hope you get to paste those faces soon
 
Cheeky said:
this is what working girls are for eh, wish it was more accepted that if you werent getting it at home you could just go get your needs met elsewhere, it's perfectly healthy to want that. feel for you pal and hope you get to paste those faces soon
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Should be written into marriage laws, if you ain't getting it at least once a week at home, should be mandatory to see a hooker
 
Bigdog23 said:
Should be written into marriage laws, if you ain't getting it at least once a week at home, should be mandatory to see a hooker
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I know in the USA they sometimes put things in prenuptial agreements like minimum frequency of sex and expectations around body weight and and fitness. Don't think that kind of thing would be enforceable in NZ though
 
JohnnyPunter said:
I know in the USA they sometimes put things in prenuptial agreements like minimum frequency of sex and expectations around body weight and and fitness. Don't think that kind of thing would be enforceable in NZ though
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Jesus imagine Chloe’s reaction to that 🤯
Would have to get the LF girls to stage a protest in their lingerie outside her office to support punters rights 🤣
 
Banana said:
Man, a few downer threads popping up on the forum these days, "Marriage?", "Final punt..." etc.

Punterhub truely has lots of lonely men here, the very thing that fuel the sex industry.

I may post something light hearted next time to cheer you all up 😁
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im just looking to paste same faces in auckland next week, gotta be young and sub size 10, not paying for anyone older or wider than myself, any recommendations?
 
Banana said:
Man, a few downer threads popping up on the forum these days, "Marriage?", "Final punt..." etc.

Punterhub truely has lots of lonely men here, the very thing that fuel the sex industry.

I may post something light hearted next time to cheer you all up 😁
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Love punter slipping on banana's vids .
 
goose8585 said:
im just looking to paste same faces in auckland next week, gotta be young and sub size 10, not paying for anyone older or wider than myself, any recommendations?
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You may have to tell me how old and wide you are first lol

Anyway Niamay, search her up 😁
 
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