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I am assuming everyone is single but were you guys ever in a relationship and what are your thoughts finding a partner as I have never been in one.
 
My own experience, after become a punter, I think there is no way back to a normal relationship.

I used to into few relationships for long time. Few years. Many dramas.

I started to seek escorts 8 or 9 months after the last break up.

And all my mind is blow up, I question myself after spending a lot of time a lot of money and a lot of concentration, is that worthy for relationship.

U only need to pay so little money and u can get much better experience. Not only skills, bodies but also attitude.

unless u want a kid, or maybe I was just too unlucky to meet the right girl.

Besides, if u visit multiple times, u can get feedback not only physical but also emotional. The girls also need someone to talk with, share the past and talk about life.
 
Dekll said:
My own experience, after become a punter, I think there is no way back to a normal relationship.

I used to into few relationships for long time. Few years. Many dramas.

I started to seek escorts 8 or 9 months after the last break up.

And all my mind is blow up, I question myself after spending a lot of time a lot of money and a lot of concentration, is that worthy for relationship.

U only need to pay so little money and u can get much better experience. Not only skills, bodies but also attitude.

unless u want a kid, or maybe I was just too unlucky to meet the right girl.

Besides, if u visit multiple times, u can get feedback not only physical but also emotional. The girls also need someone to talk with, share the past and talk about life.
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I do and I really connected with someone and she actually wanted to be in a relationship but as I wanted kids and she was too young so kinda never happened,she actually told she was gonna leave the industry and she left indeed.
Still miss her sometimes though but yea part of life ,it’s been lonely lately,lost my job low on money though and loneliness kinda makes it more harder but yes you are right I get come home to no dramas though
 
Gdsb001 said:
I do and I really connected with someone and she actually wanted to be in a relationship but as I wanted kids and she was too young so kinda never happened,she actually told she was gonna leave the industry and she left indeed.
Still miss her sometimes though but yea part of life ,it’s been lonely lately,lost my job low on money though and loneliness kinda makes it more harder but yes you are right I get come home to no dramas though
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U so lucky

I only visit few girls and have not try anyone new in the past few months. because I want to maintenance the connection with them.

Funny fact is all their relationship are with punters

Some are end already some are still going on but all looks same, they will not end up with happiness, or i may say it will end up with miserable and panthic endings.

Sometimes I spoke with them for hours to share.

It is also a precious experience for me
 
Gdsb001 said:
I do and I really connected with someone and she actually wanted to be in a relationship but as I wanted kids and she was too young so kinda never happened,she actually told she was gonna leave the industry and she left indeed.
Still miss her sometimes though but yea part of life ,it’s been lonely lately,lost my job low on money though and loneliness kinda makes it more harder but yes you are right I get come home to no dramas though
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Long Story Short

I started punting last year, when I had convinced myself that being in a relationship with her (a 10/10) was never going to happen.

Being friends with her was genuinely really good, though. She had also told me that she wanted to study at a different uni. I never personally told her that I liked her, but she somehow knew, and everyone in our friend group knew too. There were times when it genuinely felt like she liked me as well, but as the date of her leaving got closer, it started to feel like she wasn’t responding to me in the same way anymore. Because of that, I never really found the courage or the right moment to tell her how I felt.

Now, I'm just gonna finish my study and try to have a stable income, and then try to marry an escort, in NZ or AUS :)
 
Yea I was lucky but do regret it sometimes because she was the kind of girl I wanted and she was always excited to see me ,never asked for money or anything always full gfe for no extra charges with dfk and she enjoyed sex too.
But anyways she moved to Aus now ,
I don’t know but women do find me funny(she used too) but no one would even want to talk with me when I am in a normal space.
I love taking to different people and i can talk with any girl but i never found a person that I could have genuine connection with.
I am also working on myself to get better so when I get the opportunity again I would love to take it with open arms.
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I assume you must be in your 20’s.Life as a dude is all about affordability if you can afford it you can have it.Develop your self in the punting game and try to have atleast 5 female besties and by law of probability you will end up fucking them once in a while here and there if you get sex outside of punting fine other wise there is punting anyways.Keep working on your self.
 
I am not in my 20s but I am in my early 30s , I just never had any relationship so punting was my only way to meet a woman , I was shy and didn’t knew how to talk , detached from this world when my father passed away.
Then I stopped giving a fuck about anything and started punting as a coping mechanism, I don’t like porn much but yea I avoid masturbation as much as I can.
 
Happily married for over 20 years with kids, now in my 50s — and I’ve been punting for more than 30 years.
I’ve always enjoyed sex & have never felt the need to pretend otherwise. It took time, plenty of honest conversations, and a fair bit of give-and-take before my other half and I found an understanding that worked for us.
And just to be clear, sex at home is still great. But as much as I love a good home-cooked meal, I’ve never believed that means you can’t occasionally enjoy a meal out.

For me, punting sits in roughly the same corner of life as fast cars, a good whisky & base jumping. None of them are necessities, but that's rather the point. The French have a lovely expression for this: un péché mignon — a “favourite little sin”, that guilty indulgence you knowingly allow yourself simply because life would be a little less colourful (actually, very very dull) without it.

Wife has never had to question where she stand. She n my kids know I would protect them with my life in a heartbeat. But equally, don't ask me to give up my punting, my whisky or my motorcycle and expect me to suddenly become a different man. Over the years, none of it has taken away from my family life or diminished the love I have for my wife. If anything, having everything out in the open means there is less pretending, less sneaking around and fewer lies to maintain.

I suppose maybe I'm one of the fortunate ones. We eventually found an arrangement that works for us, even if it wouldn't work for everybody.
Funny thing is, we're often taught that honesty gets you into trouble. Sometimes, with the right person and enough mutual understanding, honesty is exactly what gets you out of it.

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Dekll: 'after become a punter, I think there is no way back to a normal relationship.'

I used to understand that way of thinking, but the longer you live, then comes a point when you understand the old saying, “No man is an island.” the fact that you jump in here and feel the need to type out your thoughts show this.

Independence is great, freedom is great, and having the liberty to live life on your own terms certainly has its appeal. But none of those things completely replace having someone who genuinely knows you, cares about you, and is still there when the excitement has worn off and life isn't going your way.When you're younger, it's easy to underestimate the value of that. As the years go by, you begin to realise just how precious it is to have a person you can fall back on and a place you can always call home.

You can buy company. You can chase excitement. You can enjoy freedom. But having someone who chooses to stand beside you through the boring days, the difficult days and the years when you're no longer at your best — that's a very different kind of luxury.

Perhaps becoming a punter doesn't mean there's “no way back” to a normal relationship. Maybe it simply teaches you that the two things fulfil very different parts of life — and one should never be mistaken for a replacement for the other.
 
You remind me of Rocco siffredi.
His Netflix biography is a must watch.
He is happily married with kids and I think that’s what most of the men want like in the old days.
A king with one queen and many sexual partners with no strings attached.
 
Blacknight1 said:
Happily married for over 20 years with kids, now in my 50s — and I’ve been punting for more than 30 years.
I’ve always enjoyed sex & have never felt the need to pretend otherwise. It took time, plenty of honest conversations, and a fair bit of give-and-take before my other half and I found an understanding that worked for us.
And just to be clear, sex at home is still great. But as much as I love a good home-cooked meal, I’ve never believed that means you can’t occasionally enjoy a meal out.

For me, punting sits in roughly the same corner of life as fast cars, a good whisky & base jumping. None of them are necessities, but that's rather the point. The French have a lovely expression for this: un péché mignon — a “favourite little sin”, that guilty indulgence you knowingly allow yourself simply because life would be a little less colourful (actually, very very dull) without it.

Wife has never had to question where she stand. She n my kids know I would protect them with my life in a heartbeat. But equally, don't ask me to give up my punting, my whisky or my motorcycle and expect me to suddenly become a different man. Over the years, none of it has taken away from my family life or diminished the love I have for my wife. If anything, having everything out in the open means there is less pretending, less sneaking around and fewer lies to maintain.

I suppose maybe I'm one of the fortunate ones. We eventually found an arrangement that works for us, even if it wouldn't work for everybody.
Funny thing is, we're often taught that honesty gets you into trouble. Sometimes, with the right person and enough mutual understanding, honesty is exactly what gets you out of it.

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Dekll: 'after become a punter, I think there is no way back to a normal relationship.'

I used to understand that way of thinking, but the longer you live, then comes a point when you understand the old saying, “No man is an island.” the fact that you jump in here and feel the need to type out your thoughts show this.

Independence is great, freedom is great, and having the liberty to live life on your own terms certainly has its appeal. But none of those things completely replace having someone who genuinely knows you, cares about you, and is still there when the excitement has worn off and life isn't going your way.When you're younger, it's easy to underestimate the value of that. As the years go by, you begin to realise just how precious it is to have a person you can fall back on and a place you can always call home.

You can buy company. You can chase excitement. You can enjoy freedom. But having someone who chooses to stand beside you through the boring days, the difficult days and the years when you're no longer at your best — that's a very different kind of luxury.

Perhaps becoming a punter doesn't mean there's “no way back” to a normal relationship. Maybe it simply teaches you that the two things fulfil very different parts of life — and one should never be mistaken for a replacement for the other.
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I 100% agree with this. Sounds like you have a good wife.
 
In my mid teens I had two girlfriends but we just cuddled and held hands, we did not have sex. I then had a massive dry spell. Once I got to my early 20s I decided I wanted to lose my virginity so saw escorts. I had a great time shagging multiple different women, different ages, different sizes and nationalities. It removed all the fear of the unknown about sex and gave me confidence with women.

I then started using websites (and eventually dating apps once they arrived a few years later). I finally lost my virginity "non-commercially" at age 24. After that I dated several women before eventually settling down in a long term relationship in my 30s. Punting helped me get a relationship.

I agree with @Blacknight1 that relationship sex/love is special and feels great. I still love punting but relationship sex adds a dynamic of love and care that punting cannot replace. I also treat punting as an occasional going out to eat experience, whereas sex with the missus is my nutritious daily meal. Even if you are in a relationship with the hottest most special woman in the world the male sex drive will still also desire occasional novelty and punting is a safe way to do this.

Have you tried the dating apps to find a girlfriend? I found my girlfriends off the apps. I know the apps involve lots of missed connections and messing about but there is gold to be found on there. In person dating also involves lots of messing about. The apps are good because they give you opportunities to meet women you would never otherwise encounter.

I would also caution against entering a relationship with an escort. It is best to separate your personal and punting life and not get the two things confused.
 
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I’ve been married for a decade now. I just discovered punting earlier this year so I’m not sure how it’ll affect my marriage yet. So far, we’ve been on good terms. Wife gave me a pass but she doesn’t want to know any details. I hope to be like @Blacknight1 and have a solid run for many years to come.

Maybe this sounds a little pathetic, but I do miss having company when I’m staying in the hotel by myself. First 3-4 days were fine, but after that, it was boring as shit. I’ve taken some hookers out to dinner to ease the boredom. Hanging out with them was alright, but it made me realize how much I hated dating. Socializing drains my soul when I have nothing in common with the girl.

I’m just glad I have a good partner who’s fun to hang out with when I come back home. That said, if my wife drops dead tomorrow, I’m probably going to stay single for life because looking back at how much work it takes to find a partner, court them, build a life with them, I don’t think I have it in me to go through that again. Best of luck to the single punters 🫡 Enjoy the fun, especially if you’re in your 20s. I’m pretty sad I missed out on fucking many pretty girls while my dick was functioning correctly.
 
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I 100% agree with this. Sounds like you have a good wife.
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Yes, she is one. I do wish I have the ability to make her a good whore too....:unsure:


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dodo69 said:
I’ve been married for a decade now. I just discovered punting earlier this year so I’m not sure how it’ll affect my marriage yet. So far, we’ve been on good terms. Wife gave me a pass but she doesn’t want to know any details. I hope to be like @Blacknight1 and have a solid run for many years to come.

Maybe this sounds a little pathetic, but I do miss having company when I’m staying in the hotel by myself. First 3-4 days were fine, but after that, it was boring as shit. I’ve taken some hookers out to dinner to ease the boredom. Hanging out with them was alright, but it made me realize how much I hated dating. Socializing drains my soul when I have nothing in common with the girl.

I’m just glad I have a good partner who’s fun to hang out with when I come back home. That said, if my wife drops dead tomorrow, I’m probably going to stay single for life because looking back at how much work it takes to find a partner, court them, build a life with them, I don’t think I have it in me to go through that again. Best of luck to the single punters 🫡 Enjoy the fun, especially if you’re in your 20s. I’m pretty sad I missed out on fucking many pretty girls while my dick was functioning correctly.
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'' I just discovered punting earlier this year'' @dodo69

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All jokes aside, thanks for sharing. Hey, welcome to the dark side. (y) 🤝



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dodo69 said:
I’ve been married for a decade now. I just discovered punting earlier this year so I’m not sure how it’ll affect my marriage yet. So far, we’ve been on good terms. Wife gave me a pass but she doesn’t want to know any details. I hope to be like @Blacknight1 and have a solid run for many years to come.

Maybe this sounds a little pathetic, but I do miss having company when I’m staying in the hotel by myself. First 3-4 days were fine, but after that, it was boring as shit. I’ve taken some hookers out to dinner to ease the boredom. Hanging out with them was alright, but it made me realize how much I hated dating. Socializing drains my soul when I have nothing in common with the girl.

I’m just glad I have a good partner who’s fun to hang out with when I come back home. That said, if my wife drops dead tomorrow, I’m probably going to stay single for life because looking back at how much work it takes to find a partner, court them, build a life with them, I don’t think I have it in me to go through that again. Best of luck to the single punters 🫡 Enjoy the fun, especially if you’re in your 20s. I’m pretty sad I missed out on fucking many pretty girls while my dick was functioning correctly.
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Could you bring your wife along for your trips? She can go shopping or see the tourists sights while you shag other women.
 
Gdsb001 said:
I am not in my 20s but I am in my early 30s , I just never had any relationship so punting was my only way to meet a woman , I was shy and didn’t knew how to talk , detached from this world when my father passed away.
Then I stopped giving a fuck about anything and started punting as a coping mechanism, I don’t like porn much but yea I avoid masturbation as much as I can.
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Sorry @Gdsb001,
I went a bit sideways there, but back to why I shared my side of the story.

In all seriousness, I actually felt pretty sad reading what you wrote, especially hearing it from someone from the younger generation. I completely get what you mean when you said 'Detached from this world' & call sex a “coping mechanism”, because I went through that exact same shit myself.

Punting can become addictive, and before you know it, something that started as an escape can slowly fuck with your ability to connect with a girl properly — verbally, emotionally, and eventually even financially.

Not trying to play dad, preach, or tell you how to live your life. Just speaking as someone who’s been down a similar road: You can’t outrun your demons by plunging into someone else’s vagina.
 
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It’s all good sir ,your wife’s a wonderful human being.
I was 16 when I lost him when he was only 39 years old and saw the real face of this world.how mean it can be but I am on a path to heal myself and maybe one day I will overcome this need of having someone to fulfill me where as the truth is that we are all alone in this world.
I was really blessed to have good parents.
I really feel bad for some girls who lost their parents,father was abusive etc and came to this profession.
It’s a cruel world out there hope god grants everyone that eternal pleasure that we all try to find in other things.
 
massagefan said:
In my mid teens I had two girlfriends but we just cuddled and held hands, we did not have sex. I then had a massive dry spell. Once I got to my early 20s I decided I wanted to lose my virginity so saw escorts. I had a great time shagging multiple different women, different ages, different sizes and nationalities. It removed all the fear of the unknown about sex and gave me confidence with women.

I then started using websites (and eventually dating apps once they arrived a few years later). I finally lost my virginity "non-commercially" at age 24. After that I dated several women before eventually settling down in a long term relationship in my 30s. Punting helped me get a relationship.

I agree with @Blacknight1 that relationship sex/love is special and feels great. I still love punting but relationship sex adds a dynamic of love and care that punting cannot replace. I also treat punting as an occasional going out to eat experience, whereas sex with the missus is my nutritious daily meal. Even if you are in a relationship with the hottest most special woman in the world the male sex drive will still also desire occasional novelty and punting is a safe way to do this.

Have you tried the dating apps to find a girlfriend? I found my girlfriends off the apps. I know the apps involve lots of missed connections and messing about but there is gold to be found on there. In person dating also involves lots of messing about. The apps are good because they give you opportunities to meet women you would never otherwise encounter.

I would also caution against entering a relationship with an escort. It is best to separate your personal and punting life and not get the two things confused.
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Which dating apps you tried and I am very novice in finding a right person ,I don’t go to bars as it’s not my liking.
 
Blacknight1 said:
Sorry @Gdsb001,
I went a bit sideways there, but back to why I shared my side of the story.

In all seriousness, I actually felt pretty sad reading what you wrote, especially hearing it from someone from the younger generation. I completely get what you mean when you said 'Detached from this world' & call sex a “coping mechanism”, because I went through that exact same shit myself.

Punting can become addictive, and before you know it, something that started as an escape can slowly fuck with your ability to connect with a girl properly — verbally, emotionally, and eventually even financially.

Not trying to play dad, preach, or tell you how to live your life. Just speaking as someone who’s been down a similar road: You can’t outrun your demons by plunging into someone else’s vagina.
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So true. But it’s the quick adrenaline and endorphin rush you get when you punt. It’s addictive. Quick and easy.
 
Gdsb001 said:
It’s all good sir ,your wife’s a wonderful human being.
I was 16 when I lost him when he was only 39 years old and saw the real face of this world.how mean it can be but I am on a path to heal myself and maybe one day I will overcome this need of having someone to fulfill me where as the truth is that we are all alone in this world.
I was really blessed to have good parents.
I really feel bad for some girls who lost their parents,father was abusive etc and came to this profession.
It’s a cruel world out there hope god grants everyone that eternal pleasure that we all try to find in other things.
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Mate have you seen a counselor or such like. ?
 
I am single currently. In my early 40's and had a couple of long term relationships and a fair few short ones.

I started having sex in my teens, and I enjoy sex alot.

I have a different type of sex with hookers than I have in general with partners. And my sex with partners often grows and changes depending on how long I've been with them.

I think that men in general and particularly young men struggle with the idea that sex can be relational or transactional and the emotional release you get from the different types of sex are very very different. And I think that this realisation only really comes after you've had a fair bit of it and feel confident enough in yourself and can be honest with yourself too.

I do wonder how my attitude will change too as I get older. I wonder if I have a partner when I am in my late 50s whose sex drive might change whether I will have to have. A conversation about fulfilling my needs with escorts. Currently I haven't needed this, and have enjoyed consistent and fulfilling sex within my long term relationships. In saying that, a number of my shirt term relationships I ended because I wasn't enjoying our time in the bedroom
 
Gdsb001 said:
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Just from what you’ve said your father’s death had a deep emotional impact on you. It sounds like you haven’t completely gotten over it. The SW are a compensating feel good emotion for what many are missing. At least that’s how I read it. Admit I could be completely wrong.
 
Also. Fuck some ugly/average girls. Some dudes think that they're cocks are magical wands deemed only worth of blessing the finest of ladies.

When the lights go off, and your cock is hungry, you'll find that your standards are much more realistic. And it's all practice. You want to be careful that your idea of sex isn't entirely wrapped up in the same logic that you use for banging hookers.

And who knows. That average/ugly girl might start looking cuter and cuter through your newfound perspective. Every woman is attractive to someone. I've dated the spectrum of conventional attractiveness, and after a time it all matters a little less, and the chemistry becomes way more important.
 
Gdsb001 said:
Long time ago when secret liason had just started and were operating out of city I Saw person with his wife,he went inside had his business done but wife was in the Land Cruiser I think she looks at me and said enjoy lol🤣
Was that you black night😜😜🤣
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Nah, the lady in the car wasn't my wife but my mom in law,
and I wasn't in SL to punt but fetching my wife at the end of her roster.


cheers GIF
 
Gdsb001 said:
Which dating apps you tried and I am very novice in finding a right person ,I don’t go to bars as it’s not my liking.
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Picking up women from bars never worked for me either. I much preferred having a casual chat on dating apps before deciding to meet up for a date.

I met plenty of girls off Tinder, Bumble and OK Cupid. Tinder and Bumble was good for both visiting and local women in NZ. OK Cupid was particularly good for women visiting from overseas. There is now also Hinge which I hear good things about.

Make a profile on each of these apps. Post some nice clear photos of your face and also some photos showing you doing interesting stuff you enjoy. Write a short profile (don't give away too much detail though, let that come out in conversation). Be prepared for a lot of trial and error and hits and misses but if you keep going you will eventually succeed.

If you find it hard in New Zealand save up to go on a holiday to a more populated place like Thailand or the Philippines. When I was travelling in Southeast Asia I had thousands of girls matching with me. You can date and shag a few of these women to boost your confidence for when you return back to NZ.
 
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Squidward said:
Also. Fuck some ugly/average girls. Some dudes think that they're cocks are magical wands deemed only worth of blessing the finest of ladies.

When the lights go off, and your cock is hungry, you'll find that your standards are much more realistic. And it's all practice. You want to be careful that your idea of sex isn't entirely wrapped up in the same logic that you use for banging hookers.

And who knows. That average/ugly girl might start looking cuter and cuter through your newfound perspective. Every woman is attractive to someone. I've dated the spectrum of conventional attractiveness, and after a time it all matters a little less, and the chemistry becomes way more important.
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Hell yeah 100% I had shagged/dated a few uglier women, especially during my earlier years of dating. They were great fun and great practice. Interestingly a few of the ugly ones actually dumped me and then after that I dated much hotter chicks. I found every new woman I dated was hotter than the previous one.

I have a mate who is absolutely prolific in shagging/dating women. He happily shags any woman he has a chance with. He will happily do it with an ugly duckling or a fat chick one week and then a model the following week. Any hole is a goal and any woman will give you experience you can use to give you confidence finding a gf. A lot of guys cock block themselves by being perfectionist and only entertaining women who will tick all their boxes of what they want.
 
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